Dating someone who needs therapy
“It’s easy to lose your sense of self-worth, and your self-esteem can plummet.
This can prevent you from meeting someone who’s good for you—and have a bad effect on other parts of your life.” So if you find yourself telling friends defeatedly after another lame date, “This always happens to me; guys don’t think of me as girlfriend material,” that’s a big red flag that you need to take yourself out of the game and sit on the bench for awhile, until you can shore yourself back up through other people, activities, and even therapy if you think it’s necessary.
Intimacy is mistakenly thought to just be about romance.“If things aren’t going well, taking a break can help keep the hopeful feeling alive, driving you to continue toward your goals.” It’s true: Taking yourself of the dating game can get you closer to your #relationshipgoals.While it’s important to remain positive and hopeful about your dating prospects, you also don’t want to go overboard and tip into the slightly delusional category of people who decide every first date they go on is going to be their last.If you stop genuinely believing that you will find someone, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.“Hope is a big component in dating,” says certified personal coach and life strategist Danielle Gibson.
“It’s equally important to be open to the possibility of meeting someone in person, and that means putting yourself in the right position to connect with new people.” Dismissing new people before you’ve really taken the time to get to know them—within reason, of course—can be a major barrier to meeting someone and a sign that you need to press pause on dating.