Dating plus size women
Plus, during interviews, creators Neil Raman and Michelle Li have suggested that Woo Plus is predominantly meant to help women, rather than all plus size individuals as the app's "about page" claims. However, plus size women tend to be more the focus of cruelty and body shaming as opposed to their male counterparts." While there's no stat to back that up, the inherent marginalization of women in our society is sort of evidence enough.
Li told The Daily Dot, "We're just trying to provide a comfortable environment for women who happen to be a little larger." And when you go to Woo Plus' main website, the tagline, "Big girls, you’ve got more admirers than you think," will greet you. But the sentiment that Thorpe, Hayward, and Baum have all expressed with the app is one of dissatisfaction with perceived division.
Not wanting divide is definitely reasonable, and it's a feeling that can also be heard through campaigns like #Drop The Plus.
If we don't want to be treated differently, why do we have to use different terms, or different dating sites? I personally don't think that the folks at Woo Plus believe "falling in love with someone above a size 18 [is] unusual." If that were the case, they'd be setting themselves up for failure.
Dating today is a tricky business — whether you're looking for love online or off. Regardless of who you are, the journey that is dating and relationships can make you feel like you're running around in circles.
Those who seemed nice in their profiles turn out to be total fuckboys after the first date.
But there's also nothing wrong with wanting to use an app like Grindr or Woo Plus that's catered to your own sexuality.
And so I cannot help but feel that the problem some folks are having isn't with the over-sexualization of fat people, and specifically fat women.
For me, wanting to be with someone who loves my body isn't the same thing as wanting to be with someone who loves me for my body.We wouldn't need an "app for plus size singles and admirers to find their matches," as noted on the app's i Tunes landing page, or for "big beautiful women (BBW), big handsome men (BHM), fat admirers, chubby girl[s], Dadbod[s], curvy women, thick women, and everything in between," because the notion that fat bodies are as desirable as any other body type, in that some people find them desirable and some don't, would be understood — and not just by fat people themselves, but by all people. Refinery29's Liz Black took note of the app's "condescending ads," tweeting, "Like a plus size woman would be shocked a man thinks she's hot."Blogger Callie Thorpe of From The Corners Of The Curve told ASOS, "It feels that instead of addressing the way plus size women are treated in society — and most certainly on the dating scene — we are having to further separate them."In the same article, curve model Felicity Hayward said, "To then make a separate dating app for bigger girls is a completely backwards step.There are no apps for girls under a certain weight, so creating something for bigger girls is basically segregating them from the norm. "SLi NK Magazine Editor Rivkie Baum told Huffington Post that Woo Plus' approach was "animalistic," adding, "I can’t help feeling that continuing to make bigger bodies into a fetish by segregating them continues to make falling in love with someone above a size 18 seem unusual."I understand every single one of their points, and for the most part, I agree wholeheartedly.I think it's why some will describe dating as a plus size woman to be "more of an exercise in patience and frustration than it is one in romance." Li tells me, "Large people have the same needs and desires for positive attention and love [as] thin people," but to a lot of people, that doesn't seem obvious yet.Dating a plus size person is hard because being a plus size person is hard.