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They also welcome multitudes into their bed for great big orgies.
Adam and I keep our lovers separate (more on that later).
We don’t get mad at each other if something happens that feels uncomfortable as long as it’s not a violation of an existing rule; we learn from it, and make a new rule.
Rule 1: This was the first rule we made up: This is our primary relationship.
And lest you think we’re a small subculture of free-love weirdos, research over the last several years estimates that 4-5 percent of relationships in the U. Many people feel that having a relationship or sex with only one person for an indefinite amount of time is too difficult and unnatural. For most of my life I was a serial monogamist and constantly cheating.
In fact, I only had one successful monogamous relationship. (And everybody gets laid.)A lot of non-monogamous couples joke that they spend more time talking about it than they do getting any. I'm not saying monogamy is impossible, or improbable.
It occurred to us that we could keep the excitement and variety, and still let ourselves fall in love with each other. And since then I’ve gotten a lot of questions about how we make it work and why we would even do that in the first place.
We make a point not to spend too much time with secondary partners. But that's something we've never really had to make an effort for.
We can, and sometimes do become friends with them, especially if they hang around for a couple years, but we have to cut it off if it becomes more than that. Rule 3: Always get consent from the person who’s getting involved.
When I really stop to think about it, I know that there’s very little chance that he’s seeing anyone who is going to be better for him than I am.
We’ve removed the ownership that can come with a conventional relationship.