Dating and bipolar disorder
Most of the time, you won't feel like you're enough to help solve the issue. The reality of our illness is just that nothing is ever enough. We are so sorry, and we feel so much guilt in the confusion that we cause you.
But the problem with this doesn't always have to do with you, it has to do with the fact that we sometimes don't address our issues ourselves. We don't always explain to you our condition, and because of that, you unfortunately get pushed to the side when we need you the most. Tell us you notice our beautiful soul on our darkest day.
And they’re gonna have a very difficult life if that's the case.”So how people with bipolar find success in dating?
As with any relationship, empathy and understanding in a partner plays a major role.
We want you to hold our hand so tightly during take off so we know just how little we are in that big sky. We feel so empty, you'll look at us and wonder what you did wrong.
But please don't give up on us if you know our heart is in the right place. “You're like, bipolar,” my ex-boyfriend once told me. My moods were extreme, and at the good old age of 20, he wasn't much help in the situation due to his lack of understanding.I would tell him to shut up and say he was rude for saying that. And although a lot of things began to make sense, it killed a part of my self-esteem. In the grand scheme of things, my ex and I both took part in the failure of our relationship.I've come to find out that I was completely in the right.” After that experience, Hannah says she’s a little less trusting in relationships, although she still actively dates.Caroline Ewing, a student, used to tell her dates about her diagnosis up front, but she’s found that people are less understanding than they appear at the beginning.
But some people experience symptoms earlier — right about when they are starting to date.“When I first got sick, I felt like I think every person does who gets manic or severely depressed — utterly alone,” says Jamison, whose new biography about the poet Robert Lowell, who also had the illness, is out now from Knopf.