Dating after celibacy
(Pro-tip: If you need to Google this, you’re probably not ready, and that’s OK.) Now on my fourth dating app, I wouldn’t say I’m a pro-dater just yet, but I’ve had enough experiences (more good ones than bad) that I can now light-heartedly approach meeting new people, learning about what I need along the way.If you’re thinking about putting on your big girl pants and diving back into dating, here’s what you should consider.Small snag: I hadn’t dated since the ’90s, not since Bill Clinton was impeached and the Goo Goo Dolls were a thing. I had done some online dating back then, on a site called Swoon.com, when you were lucky if a photo of you existed on the internet.
I want to help you stick with your decision and find a person who is willing to walk this journey with you by giving you 3 tips for having the conversation about celibacy with the person you’re dating. If you’re abstaining until marriage, make sure that you share this, otherwise the other person may have an expectation that they can change your mind! You also don’t want the other person to feel like you’re punishing them because of your decision to abstain.She also went on to state that she doesn’t even have to TRY to control her urge for sex because it’s so simple to deal with, and as much as I KNOW I’m supposed to high-five her for saying that, I just couldn’t co-sign it.Now I know anyone stupid and ignorant enough to skip over what I’m writing will simply miss the point and think when obviously that’s not the case.If they decide they can’t handle not having sex until marriage, let them go!Be confident that you will find the right person who will happily respect you.
I want you to be encouraged and stand strong in your decision to date while celibate.